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To Love Deeply You Need Self-Control (Among Other Things)

kind words by nicole joelle

via Nicole Joelle Prints

So lately I feel very much challenged to grow up in my faith.  I feel particularly challenged because I want the same thing for my kids and in order to be able to help them grow, I need to be continually challenging myself and growing too!  The verses that spoke to me from this weeks reading that really spoke to me come from 2 Peter chapter 1:

“5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But whoever does not have them is nearsighted and blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past sins.”

I need to add to my faith!  In 1 Peter 4:8 we are challenged to love each other deeply.  I think that in order to do so, I need those things listed in 2 Peter- goodness, knowledge, self-control, perseverance, godliness, mutual affection, and love.  Lately I have felt a particular challenge to grow in the area of self control.  Why?  Because I’m trying to teach it to my 3 1/2 year old.  He’s an emotional guy like me, which is awesome in that we both have a great capacity for empathy and are passionate.  But it’s also a challenge in that we don’t always handle our emotions well.  In trying to teach him not to “lose it” when he’s upset by a situation, I’ve been challenged to do the same.

As a mama sometimes I don’t have the best reaction to when things go wrong or someone doesn’t obey.  I’m learning that while I cannot control my son’s behavior, I can control my reaction to his behavior.  And I know that a calm reaction is much better than a crazy emotional one.  By modeling self control to my son I know that it will help him to learn it for himself.  It will also help me to think more clearly and respond in a more loving way.  This is difficult for me, but it’s something that God has really been working on in my heart.  To remind myself of this I bought the awesome print you see above to remind me of the importance of my words, particularly toward my children.  Even when correcting them, I can be kind and in control, all with the help of Jesus.

If you’d like to join along in reading through the Bible in 3 years you can find the schedule over at Women Living Well. Tomorrow’s reading is 1 John chapter 3. We’re doing one chapter a day. This is the month’s reading plan:

Esther reading plan

I hope you all have a great weekend! I’ll be back next week to share my thought’s on the week’s readings.

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Saturday 20th of September 2014

You are right, it is hard to have the right response to our children but yet so important. I love your print!!


Saturday 20th of September 2014

Thank you! I love it and can't wait to hang it up.


Friday 19th of September 2014

I also have a emotional child. I call him "reactive". I think those type of children are very challenging! Only 1 of my 3 are like that and, wow, he can really wear me out. I love what you said about self control and our reactions as mamas. Definitely something that I need to work on and I'm thankful you pointed it out. Staying calm speaks more to them than anything else I imagine! Thanks for sharing your heart.


Friday 19th of September 2014

Reactive is a good term! I believe that as challenging as they are, these kids really are going to do amazing things once God gets ahold of their hearts!

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